Michelle Obama is opening up about her decision to step away from certain high-profile events, including skipping Donald Trump’s second inauguration—a choice that stirred public speculation.
Despite rumors about tension in her marriage or political bitterness, the former first lady explained on the April 23 episode of her podcast IMO With Michelle Obama and Craig Robinson that her absence was a deeply personal decision: “It was the choice that was right for me.”
Speaking with guest Taraji P. Henson, Obama shared that she had to “train herself” to prioritize her well-being over public expectations. She even avoided having a dress prepared for the inauguration to prevent herself from giving in to pressure. “It took everything in my power to not do the thing that was perceived as right,” she said.
The former first lady also reflected on how stepping away from appearances has fueled unfounded rumors and highlighted the difficulty women—especially Black women—face when asserting boundaries. She emphasized the importance of teaching young women, including her daughters, how to confidently say no: “It’s a muscle you have to build.”
Since leaving the White House, Obama has turned to therapy to process her experiences and reclaim her sense of self. “We made it through. We got out alive,” she said. “My girls are whole. But what happened to me?”
